Dear readers, recently I have met several people who has trouble in love. Usually, Indonesian women in their mid to late 20s are subject to the matter of "When are you going to get married?" stuff. There are those who has happily married, there are those solemnly concealing their spouse-to-be, and of course there are those who encounter challenges in their way to marriage.
There are one thing that tickles me everytime I hear this phrase " I just don't want to look for another spouse-to-be" for these reasons: " because it takes time to start over" or " because I'm too old for that" or " because I don't feel like I'm into it anymore". And most of them are said by women. I wonder, why I haven't heard from my fellow male friends...
If we take a different point of view, why don't these women uttered " I just want you to be my spouse,no one else"? It comes from the same source, but it may imply a different thing. Saying "I don't want to look for another because I don't want to start over" can imply that she doesn't have any other option of male which she dreams of. It implies that she's desperate and chooses the male available to marry with rather than finding the one she loves and loves her. That is what I regret because there is a chance that she will regret the choice she made. And as I know, women want to have marriage once in their life. Their first and their last marriage.
So, instead of saying negative sentence as such, wouldn't it better to say that " I want to spend my life with him/her, no one else". Are we brave enough to say that sincerely in front of our spouse(or spouse-to-be)?
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04 Juni 2011
When what info you want is not what they give you, in the office
We know that in large company and organization, we work with an enormous number of people as its employee. We can find good things and less good things in it,as usual. Today, I just found something that is quite funny and rhetoric in daily life in an office.
Yesterday, our division--got an email,which is forwarded from head office. In this email, we were asked to get some data about several companies in our city that can be targeted for our business. The data requested are address,account number(indicating that they are our customers or not), and acquisition progress.They do that to be able to map the targeted customers throughout the nation.
Usually large companies/organization, almost every employee is provided by on-line internal database that can be used to obtain customer's certain data. In this case, I assume they can do the same thing as I can-- obtaining customer's data from the database. Now,considering that that request can be done by people from head office as well as we can, why don't they take the data available from the database?
So, my supervisor lightly recommend me to give the data available from our customer database. I guess that our teammates should have specify more clearly about the data they request us to search. If they want an update of the data,(which is not available in our customer database) then say so. Given enough time, we will do our best to deliver the request, as great teamwork is necessary.
Has it ever happen in your life?
Yesterday, our division--got an email,which is forwarded from head office. In this email, we were asked to get some data about several companies in our city that can be targeted for our business. The data requested are address,account number(indicating that they are our customers or not), and acquisition progress.They do that to be able to map the targeted customers throughout the nation.
Usually large companies/organization, almost every employee is provided by on-line internal database that can be used to obtain customer's certain data. In this case, I assume they can do the same thing as I can-- obtaining customer's data from the database. Now,considering that that request can be done by people from head office as well as we can, why don't they take the data available from the database?
So, my supervisor lightly recommend me to give the data available from our customer database. I guess that our teammates should have specify more clearly about the data they request us to search. If they want an update of the data,(which is not available in our customer database) then say so. Given enough time, we will do our best to deliver the request, as great teamwork is necessary.
Has it ever happen in your life?
07 Maret 2011
If life is a journey,then career is just a small part of it
Some poeple says that life is a journey,some says that journey is their life. Whichever we are, I agree that we can feel life by having a journey. By having a journey, we can see the world ( at least some part of it), we can see how large our world is, we can see how beauty it is, we can see people, meet people, get to know people, and making friends. We can feel life by knowing that we are not alone in this wide and spacious world.
Through journey as well, we can also see how bad some environment can be, we can see how poor sanitation in can be, how poor our society can develop to, we can see how lucky our life can be compared to those who is suffering. We can feel sorrow, we can feel grief, we can feel dissatisfaction, and we can feel empathy and sympathy. We can feel life by knowing that we still have heart.
Through journey,we can taste different tastes of meal, we can smell different scents of flowers and wind,we can dive different water or lake, we can see the tears of a child wanting her mom to be close to him while the mother is occupied by her effort to get income to feed that child. We can go everywhere we want, or even to places we are told to go to, or even places we haven't kniwn before. And what makes a journey brings life is when we got home, we can smile a lot wider, welcomed by the hands of our smiling family, sit down and have some tea while sharing the stories we have from our journey. We feel life more into ourselves..
During my career in one of national bank of Indonesia, I have been travelling to almost every branches in the Area of Balikpapan. Although acting as a temporary assignment clerk, I can see more part of the world, at least a very small part of it. I can see a lot people, I can learn to get along faster than I used to, and I can view bigger portrait of people. Some friends feel pity for me, some feel that I'm pathetic to do such task, but I have to say that some part of me enjoying it. But for sure, I want to aim bigger than what I do right now, because though I am enjoying it, I don't want to stay just like this. Now, through my journey, I can see that I need to learn to be patient. That is for sure.
What about you?
Through journey as well, we can also see how bad some environment can be, we can see how poor sanitation in can be, how poor our society can develop to, we can see how lucky our life can be compared to those who is suffering. We can feel sorrow, we can feel grief, we can feel dissatisfaction, and we can feel empathy and sympathy. We can feel life by knowing that we still have heart.
Through journey,we can taste different tastes of meal, we can smell different scents of flowers and wind,we can dive different water or lake, we can see the tears of a child wanting her mom to be close to him while the mother is occupied by her effort to get income to feed that child. We can go everywhere we want, or even to places we are told to go to, or even places we haven't kniwn before. And what makes a journey brings life is when we got home, we can smile a lot wider, welcomed by the hands of our smiling family, sit down and have some tea while sharing the stories we have from our journey. We feel life more into ourselves..
During my career in one of national bank of Indonesia, I have been travelling to almost every branches in the Area of Balikpapan. Although acting as a temporary assignment clerk, I can see more part of the world, at least a very small part of it. I can see a lot people, I can learn to get along faster than I used to, and I can view bigger portrait of people. Some friends feel pity for me, some feel that I'm pathetic to do such task, but I have to say that some part of me enjoying it. But for sure, I want to aim bigger than what I do right now, because though I am enjoying it, I don't want to stay just like this. Now, through my journey, I can see that I need to learn to be patient. That is for sure.
What about you?
02 Desember 2010
It Is Nice to See Younger People
Asw.
How have you all been?
In the past months, I have been sharing my knowledge in english in one of english course institution. I do it twice a week in the evening. And you know what? I have found out lately that even though I only got home 30 minutes after my noon job as a clerk, I can see myself having the better spirit than working as a clerk in the morning. I can see myself as a passionate person.
Sometimes, I wonder why it can happen to me. A few minutes ago, somethings slipped through my mind.
I believe that being with younger people can give us benefit such as, we can sense their youth, their naivety, their passion to know as much as possible, their inobliging in barriers ahead, their smiles for praises and one more thing, their exhaustion of advices.
I have to admit that by giving advices, I got reminded by myself, " Have I did as I adviced?". It reminds me to be consistent as what I told them. It reminds me to be a better person that the ones in my advices. I reminds me that somewhere in my heart, I need them.
We may not be a perfect person which is invulnerable to mistake, but we can be a perfect person whose mistakes develop him/her.
Then, which one are we?
How have you all been?
In the past months, I have been sharing my knowledge in english in one of english course institution. I do it twice a week in the evening. And you know what? I have found out lately that even though I only got home 30 minutes after my noon job as a clerk, I can see myself having the better spirit than working as a clerk in the morning. I can see myself as a passionate person.
Sometimes, I wonder why it can happen to me. A few minutes ago, somethings slipped through my mind.
I believe that being with younger people can give us benefit such as, we can sense their youth, their naivety, their passion to know as much as possible, their inobliging in barriers ahead, their smiles for praises and one more thing, their exhaustion of advices.
I have to admit that by giving advices, I got reminded by myself, " Have I did as I adviced?". It reminds me to be consistent as what I told them. It reminds me to be a better person that the ones in my advices. I reminds me that somewhere in my heart, I need them.
We may not be a perfect person which is invulnerable to mistake, but we can be a perfect person whose mistakes develop him/her.
Then, which one are we?
23 Oktober 2010
One saturday night
Dear readers, how are you?
You know, I do realize that writing can take time. As I knew that making reports and filing them are no easy tasks as they take so many time. I knew that writing needs patience as much as the number of readers reading this. I want you to know that I've been trying to get you into my mind through these posts.
This saturday night, as usual, I don't mind staying at home because the last thing I want to do is being outside with lots of people having their saturday night pleasing themselves by going to the shopping malls, cinemas, hang out places, karaokes, and many more. I don't really confident being in a mass group of people. So I chose to stay at home, having dinner with my parents, and of course, practicing with my posts. I don't enjoy TV shows too much as well, so I choose to listen to David Foster's "Love Lights the world" album to accompany me writing my posts. I want to know how good it is. And there is also a radio programme delivered in english. In the early days, I always listen to it because I am relieved that we have someone who broadcast this kind of programme. But these days, I have been neglecting them because I don't think I can get excitement in listening to it anymore. I felt bored (though I hate to say it) by their programme, lack of enthusiasm, unclear positioning (which leads to unclear messages they deliver) and their lack of influence or even their main reason of their existence; to accompany their audiences. Just like a teacher whose student are leaving him one by one because the teacher cannot get them to talk.
I have been feeling these kind of thing since I was a junior high student. I have been trying to share my enthusiasm in english. I have been trying to make them feel that english is as easy as I feel. I want to convince them that understanding english is an advantage for them. I want people to feel confident in deliverin their speech, regardless of their english skill. I always failed to consistenly accompanying them in english. I am ready, wherever whenever, someone wants to practise their english with me. I don't care who they are, as long as they want to get my correction everytime they make mistake so that they can improve themselves. But in many times, those who wanted to practice english with me began to withdraw from practicing bit by bit.
Do I dream too big? Do I want too much? Was I too harsh in giving corrections? Am I overwhelming?
I have been searching and questioning these question so many times in my life. I hope I can get a chance where I can get the answer.
This hope will never cease. It is just that bitterness has been consuming it by time..
You know, I do realize that writing can take time. As I knew that making reports and filing them are no easy tasks as they take so many time. I knew that writing needs patience as much as the number of readers reading this. I want you to know that I've been trying to get you into my mind through these posts.
This saturday night, as usual, I don't mind staying at home because the last thing I want to do is being outside with lots of people having their saturday night pleasing themselves by going to the shopping malls, cinemas, hang out places, karaokes, and many more. I don't really confident being in a mass group of people. So I chose to stay at home, having dinner with my parents, and of course, practicing with my posts. I don't enjoy TV shows too much as well, so I choose to listen to David Foster's "Love Lights the world" album to accompany me writing my posts. I want to know how good it is. And there is also a radio programme delivered in english. In the early days, I always listen to it because I am relieved that we have someone who broadcast this kind of programme. But these days, I have been neglecting them because I don't think I can get excitement in listening to it anymore. I felt bored (though I hate to say it) by their programme, lack of enthusiasm, unclear positioning (which leads to unclear messages they deliver) and their lack of influence or even their main reason of their existence; to accompany their audiences. Just like a teacher whose student are leaving him one by one because the teacher cannot get them to talk.
I have been feeling these kind of thing since I was a junior high student. I have been trying to share my enthusiasm in english. I have been trying to make them feel that english is as easy as I feel. I want to convince them that understanding english is an advantage for them. I want people to feel confident in deliverin their speech, regardless of their english skill. I always failed to consistenly accompanying them in english. I am ready, wherever whenever, someone wants to practise their english with me. I don't care who they are, as long as they want to get my correction everytime they make mistake so that they can improve themselves. But in many times, those who wanted to practice english with me began to withdraw from practicing bit by bit.
Do I dream too big? Do I want too much? Was I too harsh in giving corrections? Am I overwhelming?
I have been searching and questioning these question so many times in my life. I hope I can get a chance where I can get the answer.
This hope will never cease. It is just that bitterness has been consuming it by time..
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