Dear readers, recently I have met several people who has trouble in love. Usually, Indonesian women in their mid to late 20s are subject to the matter of "When are you going to get married?" stuff. There are those who has happily married, there are those solemnly concealing their spouse-to-be, and of course there are those who encounter challenges in their way to marriage.
There are one thing that tickles me everytime I hear this phrase " I just don't want to look for another spouse-to-be" for these reasons: " because it takes time to start over" or " because I'm too old for that" or " because I don't feel like I'm into it anymore". And most of them are said by women. I wonder, why I haven't heard from my fellow male friends...
If we take a different point of view, why don't these women uttered " I just want you to be my spouse,no one else"? It comes from the same source, but it may imply a different thing. Saying "I don't want to look for another because I don't want to start over" can imply that she doesn't have any other option of male which she dreams of. It implies that she's desperate and chooses the male available to marry with rather than finding the one she loves and loves her. That is what I regret because there is a chance that she will regret the choice she made. And as I know, women want to have marriage once in their life. Their first and their last marriage.
So, instead of saying negative sentence as such, wouldn't it better to say that " I want to spend my life with him/her, no one else". Are we brave enough to say that sincerely in front of our spouse(or spouse-to-be)?
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